Most of us, at some point in our lives, are looking to improve. To increase our daily efficiency, augment our intellect, or to enhance our physical health and/or appearance. It’s rare to find someone who will say, truthfully, that they could put a check mark in all of these columns. It seems a universal connection to want to be better in some way. The connection extends further to the seemingly universal challenges to success that we find ourselves up against. So why is it so hard to achieve these goals? Quite simply, we are less likely to succeed when we do things alone. Whether your goal is of a personal or professional nature, most studies and observations support the notion of…support as being a major contributor to success.

Before embarking on any journey to achieve a goal, it is important to ask ourselves whether our motivations are intrinsic. Will the outcome primarily please me or others? We’d be naïve to think that it’s uncommon to want to be better for the benefit of the outside world. If I fit more into my day, people will envy my organizational capacity. If I read more, I’ll impress my colleagues during discussions. If I lose weight, I will be more attractive to others. This type of thinking is so prevalent and yet, we often fail to see the connection between seeking out external approval as our true motivation and our ensuing (in)ability to carry out our objectives. Having an external goal is not inherently negative but if that is the lone driver, evidence illustrates that we may have a steeper hill to climb, so to speak.


While it may seem counterintuitive, the journey from purpose from within to support from without is surprisingly short compared to the alternative. Working for our own growth substantially improves motivation and the results tend to persist more rigorously. And once we’ve located our internal drive, the support network we have to draw from is wider than we may think. Studies show that it is important to seek out a few different types of support for any one goal. Lists of general support categories derived by specialists include the expert, the sausage maker, the role-player, the mirror, the cheerleader and the safe harbor. You may find you don’t need every one of these or that one steady ally can embody several roles. Before you actively begin pursuing your goal, it is worth considering each role to determine which apply to you and who in your life might fit the bill.

When it comes to health and wellness, there are many professionals who can be both your expert as well as your cheerleader, or your combined sausage maker and safe harbor. Roles are often determined by each of the personalities of the giver and receiver of support as well as the dynamic established between the two. What’s important is that, nowadays, wellness coaching is much more multi-faceted than acting as drill sergeant to keep you on the treadmill. Wellness coaching can help propel your aspiration forward into reality much faster than if you try to go it alone.

We each have different strengths as well as challenges when it comes to chasing our ends. Maybe we’re looking for help with a plan to organize our time most effectively or simply another person working alongside us to increase our competitive drive. We may need a more immersive experience to jumpstart the process and there are fitness retreats to help us with several aspects of our goal at once and to press us to get into the right mindset overall. Whatever your individual needs, take a look at our services and kickstart the new you.